These days, a lot of people are feeling overwhelmed, and that isn’t a huge surprise. We doomscroll constantly, and information is available to us nonstop. I would say one of the biggest reasons we feel overwhelmed is because we spend hours a day on our phones.

Every time we get a notification, a like, or maybe a new follower, our brain releases dopamine. It can feel good to get a like on your photo or video—it feels like a reward. But just a few moments later, you start craving another dopamine “shot.” After days or weeks, your brain adapts to this constant stimulation, and it becomes harder to get the same dopamine hit. Normal activities start to feel boring, and you experience less pleasure overall.

This can lead to feelings of anxiety, irritability, and even depression—things we obviously want to avoid.

In this blog post, I’ll explain how to do a dopamine reset so you can experience less anxiety and depression and start finding pleasure in normal activities again.

How to Do a Dopamine Reset

What kind of reset are you going to do?

There are two ways to do a dopamine reset. The first one is to completely stop using your phone, tablet, and computer—basically all screens. This method is very extreme, but also very effective.

Personally, I’m not the biggest fan of that approach. I prefer the second method. With this one, you set clear rules around when and how long you can use your phone. For example, you might allow yourself to check your phone three or four times a day and stay mindful of what you’re doing to avoid doomscrolling. Setting a timer can also help—when the timer goes off, you put your phone away.

What are you going to do with your free?

According to research, the average person spends between five and seven hours a day on their phone. So if you decide to do a dopamine detox, you’ll probably realize just how much time you actually have in a day. Before you begin, make sure you have a list of things you can do instead. A lot of people instinctively grab their phone as soon as they feel bored, and you want to avoid that.

Try finding a hobby that can distract you in a positive way. Maybe you could learn to play an instrument, read books, start exercising, bake, or even write a book.

Put your phone in a different room

I’m going to be honest: the beginning of a dopamine detox might not be easy. Scrolling on your phone has become a habit, and your brain is craving that quick dopamine hit. But there are ways to make it easier for yourself. You can put your phone in a different room. We’re lazy by nature, and walking to another room to get your phone often feels like too much effort. Keeping your phone out of sight also helps—out of sight really does mean out of mind.

App Blocking

There are also a lot of apps that will block certain apps for a while. This can also help when you have to focus on school or work. Most of the time you can set a timer for a few hours and then after those hours you can access those apps/websites again.

Embrace boredom

I know I said you should find new hobbies to fill up your time so you don’t get bored. But sometimes it’s also good for your brain to do nothing at all. Sit on your couch and do nothing. Just be bored for 30 minutes. This gives your brain a chance to rest, and you’ll feel less overwhelmed afterward.

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I’ve spent a lot of time on social media over the past couple of years, maybe even a bit too much. But there’s something I started to notice this year. We all have our own favorite hobbies. I like to read, and sometimes I color just for fun. But this year, I started seeing more and more content about these hobbies, I noticed something concerning: we’re turning our hobbies into competitions. And that’s not great. Hobbies are supposed to be relaxing.

Stop Turning Your Hobbies Into Competitions

Hobbies are supposed to be fun and relaxing

Growing up, I had a lot of hobbies. The internet already existed, but it wasn’t as big as it is now. My parents allowed me to spend a little time on the computer, usually about an hour, and I mostly used it to play The Sims. So in my free time, I spent most of it on my hobbies. I loved playing outside, but I also loved reading and being creative. I wasn’t trying to read more than other people or color better than anyone else. I was just trying to have fun.

Hobbies are meant for relaxing. Imagine spending an entire day at school or work, you probably just want to unwind afterward. That’s why people look for hobbies in the first place. Hobbies help you take your mind off other things. When you’re focused on a hobby, you don’t have to think about your problems or responsibilities for a while. Having hobbies is simply about enjoying yourself and having fun.

People are turning hobbies into competitions

Sometimes I see content where people are bragging about how many books they’ve read in a year. I even saw a post from someone saying she was going to read 1,000 books in a single year. I’m all for reading more books, I love reading, but reading 1,000 books a year doesn’t feel like a fun hobby anymore. That’s about three books a day! That sounds stressful to me, and I’m sure I’m not the only one who thinks that’s a bit extreme. Some people even look down on others who “only” read one to ten books a year.

Because I love coloring, I also started seeing more content about that hobby. Some people in the coloring community seem to think you have to use Ohuhu markers, which cost hundreds of euros or dollars—to be good at it. If you don’t use those markers, you’re apparently not good enough. I use cheap markers. I bought around 80 alcohol markers for €15 at a Dutch discount store called Action, and they work just fine for me.

But it gets even crazier. People are telling others exactly how they should color and which techniques they should use to make their pages look “perfect.” Honestly, I don’t think about techniques at all when I color. I just color. I don’t even blend. And that’s okay. It’s wild that people feel the need to police how others enjoy a simple hobby. At the end of the day, it’s just a hobby.

I really think turning hobbies into competitions is a bad thing. Hobbies are meant to be relaxing, but when people turn them into contests, it makes them way less fun. I can’t imagine setting an extremely high reading goal just to fit in or impress others. It sounds so stressful. Imagine coming home from work and feeling like you have to read 100 pages immediately, otherwise you won’t reach your reading goal. If work or school is already stressful, the last thing you want is to add even more pressure—especially because Karen on social media told you how to color the “right” way.

Just have fun with your hobby

Can we please leave this behind us in 2026. Pick a hobby because it is fun and not because to impress other people on social media. I personally started to ignore all of those posts on TikTok about coloring. It was too exhausting. I am keeping my hobbies to myself for now. I even decided to set my GoodReads challenge for 2026 on 1 book. I will probably read more than that. But I am not going to put pressure onto my hobbies anymore.

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We live in a world that never truly pauses. Even in quiet moments, our minds feel full. Full of thoughts, notifications, expectations, noise. Many of us feel tired in a way that sleep doesn’t fix, overwhelmed by small things, or constantly on edge without knowing exactly why. This isn’t a personal failure, it’s a nervous system response. We are collectively overstimulated, and it’s shaping the way we think, feel, and move through life.

Below are some of the main reasons why so many of us feel this way.

Why We Are Collectively Overstimulated

Constant Digital Input

Our phones are often the first thing we see in the morning and the last thing we touch at night. Messages, news, social media, videos, emails, our brains are processing endless information without real breaks. Even when we’re “relaxing,” we’re still consuming. There is no natural pause anymore, and our nervous systems don’t get the chance to reset. And the thing is that it is not easy to reduce your screentime. All those social media apps are designed to keep you on the app. It is addictive.

Social Media and Comparison Culture

We are constantly exposed to other people’s lives, their routines, achievements, bodies, homes, productivity, and happiness. Even when we know it’s curated, our brains still compare. This creates pressure to keep up, do more, be more, and never fall behind. It’s exhausting to measure yourself against hundreds of lives every single day. Sometimes we forget that photo or video is just one moment of their lives. It is not the full picture.

Busy Schedules and Full Calendars

Being busy has become normal, even expected. Our days are packed with tasks, appointments, social plans, and responsibilities. We rarely leave space for nothing. Rest is often something we have to “earn,” instead of something we allow. When life is always scheduled, the nervous system stays in alert mode. And this is not just a thing we do on a workday. Even on the weekends we are super busy, because we have to go grocery shopping, go to the gym, spend time with our friends.

The Pressure to Always Be Productive

There’s an unspoken belief that we should always be improving, optimizing, and achieving. Even rest has turned into something we try to do “right.” This constant self-improvement mindset keeps our minds switched on and makes it difficult to truly relax without guilt. It is why I am not a big fan of the hustle culture. Sometimes I still see those kind of videos on my For You Page and it is always the same. In those videos they say we have to work harder, do more etc.

Lack of True Silence

Silence has become rare. There’s almost always background noise, music, podcasts, videos, conversations, traffic. Many of us feel uncomfortable in quiet moments because we’re not used to them anymore. But silence is where the nervous system recovers. Without it, overstimulation builds.

Emotional and Mental Load

We carry more than just our own lives. We absorb news, global issues, expectations, and other people’s emotions. Being constantly aware of everything happening in the world keeps our minds in a state of alertness. Our nervous systems were never meant to hold this much all the time. Negativity is a part of our lives. It is probably impossible to escape that. But we have to find a way to have more balance in our lives and how we deal with our emotions instead of surpressing them.

No Clear Boundaries Between Work and Rest

With phones and laptops always nearby, work and responsibility can follow us everywhere. Messages come in after hours, thoughts about tasks linger, and switching off feels difficult. When there’s no clear end to the day, the body never fully relaxes. I know someone who is always thinking about her job. And honestly, she is always feeling stressed. It is just not healthy. Everyone needs a healthy balance in their lives.

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Hey there! Let’s talk about something we all deal with but rarely address—digital clutter. You know what I’m talking about: endless emails, countless apps, random files scattered across your desktop, and photos galore. Our online spaces can get just as messy as our physical ones, and sometimes, even more so. If your digital life feels chaotic, it’s time for a clean-up! Here are 10 tips to help you create order in the online chaos.

Digital Clean Up: 10 Tips for Creating Order in Online Chaos

1. Start with Your Inbox

Your email inbox is probably a major source of digital clutter.

• Unsubscribe: Go through your emails and unsubscribe from newsletters or promotions you no longer find useful.
• Create Folders: Organize your emails into folders. For example, have separate folders for work, personal, finance, etc.
• Use Filters: Set up filters to automatically sort incoming emails.

2. Declutter Your Desktop

A messy desktop can make it hard to find anything and can be visually overwhelming.

• Remove Unnecessary Icons: Delete or move files and shortcuts you don’t need on your desktop.
• Create Folders: Organize files into folders for easy access.
• Use a Clean Wallpaper: A simple, clean wallpaper can make your desktop look more organized.

3. Organize Your Files

Having files all over the place can be a nightmare.

• Create a Logical Structure: Set up a folder structure that makes sense to you. For example, have main folders for Documents, Photos, Work, etc.
• Name Your Files Properly: Use descriptive file names so you can easily find what you need.

4. Clean Up Your Browser

Your web browser can quickly become cluttered with bookmarks, tabs, and extensions.

• Manage Bookmarks: Go through your bookmarks and delete those you no longer need. Organize the rest into folders.
• Close Unnecessary Tabs: If you’re like me, you probably have way too many tabs open. Close the ones you don’t need.
• Remove Unused Extensions: Uninstall browser extensions you no longer use.

5. Sort Your Photos

Your photo library can quickly become overwhelming if you don’t keep it organized.

• Delete Duplicates: Go through and delete any duplicate photos or ones you don’t need.
• Create Albums: Organize your photos into albums by event, date, or category.
• Back-Up Your Photos: Use a cloud service or external hard drive to back up your important photos.

6. Streamline Your Apps

Having too many apps can slow down your devices and make it hard to find what you need.

• Delete Unused Apps: Go through your apps and delete the ones you no longer use.
• Organize Apps into Folders: Group similar apps together in folders. For example, have a folder for social media, productivity, games, etc.
• Update Your Apps: Make sure your apps are up to date for better performance and security.

7. Manage Your Passwords

Keeping track of all your passwords can be a challenge.

• Use a Password Manager: Password managers can generate and store strong passwords for you.
• Update Weak Passwords: Make sure all your passwords are strong and unique.
• Enable Two-Factor Authentication: Add an extra layer of security to your accounts.

8. Clean Up Your Social Media

Social media can become cluttered with unnecessary content.

• Unfollow Accounts: Go through your list of followed accounts and unfollow any that no longer interest you.
• Organize Friends: Use lists or categories to organize your friends and followers.
• Clear Out Messages: Delete old messages and conversations you no longer need.

9. Tidy Up Your Cloud Storage

Cloud storage can become just as messy as your local storage.

• Delete Unnecessary Files: Go through your cloud storage and delete files you no longer need.
• Organize Remaining Files: Use folders to keep your cloud storage organized.
• Ensure You Have Enough Space: Upgrade your storage plan if needed to avoid running out of space.

10. Set a Regular Maintenance Schedule

Keeping your digital life organized isn’t a one-time task.

• Weekly Review: Set aside time each week to review and organize your digital spaces.
• Monthly Deep Clean: Do a more thorough clean-up once a month.
• Stay Consistent: Consistency is key to maintaining a clutter-free digital life.

Conclusion

Digital clutter can be just as stressful as physical clutter, but with a little effort, you can create a more organized and efficient digital life. By following these tips, you’ll be well on your way to a cleaner, more manageable online space. Trust me, your future self will thank you!

Got any digital clean-up tips of your own? Share them in the comments below!

Happy organizing, friends! 🖥️📱✨

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